“Today I want you to think about all that you are instead of all that you are not.” This was a recent post on the Momxiety Club Instagram and I wanted to talk a little more about it here on the podcast.
This is a tough one at times and I am more often than not (READ - like always) thinking about what I am not…not, what I am.
I would tell my kids, ”You’re so strong…Oh wow you kept trying!” but think to myself, “You’re so weak and out of shape. You just give up and are a failure.”
Shouldn’t we be modeling how to talk to ourselves in a positive manner? Isn’t this what we want to teach our kids? Shouldn’t we continue talking to our kids like this beyond infancy and the early school years? What made us stop talking to ourselves in a positive manner?
I’ve been thinking more and more about how my mind seems to think in “all or nothing” ways and working on more positive self-talk…even if it’s only one little thing a day that breaks through the negativity.
Listen in and let me know what you think about how anxiety affects your self-talk and your “all or nothing” view or attitude.
Worried the Pediatrician will think you are an Anxious New Mom?: An Interview with The PediPals: Dr. Ana and Dr. Sami
Are you worried that your child's pediatrician office is going to label you an "anxious mom"? Or that they will dismiss your concerns because you're "just an anxious new mom"? In previous episodes, I have shared that I was always concerned about this! I still go back and forth in my head if I have to call the pediatrician to ask a question, thinking "they are gonna think I'm nuts for calling about this...or they are going to think I'm nuts because I should have called immediately after a bump or bruise, etc."
Well, listen in on my interview with the PediPals, Dr. Ana and Dr. Sami because you’ll hear how these pediatricians reassure us that they are here to help and not judge! These wonderful pediatricians have taken to social media and host their own podcast to help give parents trusted information…and take the anxiety out of parenting.
In 2019, Drs. Ana and Sami launched their new company the PediPals after meeting during residency. With PediPals, they aim to educate parents about common pediatric questions, ailments and recommendations, and discuss the issues that require attention but may not be able to be addressed at routine pediatric checkups.
To hear a bit of the continuation on this episode here is a link to my interview on the The Well Child Podcast.
This episode was recorded in April 2021 but is being released now in November 2021. There are two reasons I am sharing this...even though it was recorded months ago. This was recorded when I was having an anxiety attack. My chest was tight, I was worried and overwhelmed. It's important to share the reality of what an anxiety attack can "look and feel" like. Not everyone experiences anxiety the same way and one individuals anxiety attacks are not all the same.
This is also relevant because it was recorded at the time that many adults were able to be vaccinated in the US and, for many, the world was opening up again, but I was still feeling trapped and nervous since both my children are under 12.
Now that kids 5-11 are able to be vaccinated, this is still relevant for many, like me, who have kids under 5. My oldest is immunocompromised but was able to get his first shot yesterday, but my youngest is 2...so we are still in this in-between more comfortable but not 100% comfortable stage.
I found this new re-entry and re-opening anxiety in April 2021 and what is sure to come in the next few months again to be very similar to the momxiety of having a newborn at home and leaving the house for the first several months postpartum.
I always say little things make a big difference. Today I'm sharing how two little emails on a Saturday night sent my mind down an all too familiar panicky spiral and how I was able to use the old adage, "Prepare for the worst, hope for the best" to bring my mind back from the downward spiral.